Tuesday, February 22, 2011

So your friend's _______ died...

What do you do?

Don't tell them it's all in God's plan.  It's all in His hands.  That very well may be, but your friend just lost his dad/mom/aunt/grandpa/pet/etc.  That is not what they want to hear.  In fact, they probably don't want to hear anything.  They just want a hug.  Maybe if you're best friends you can say something like, "This really sucks.  I am so sorry," and then hug them.  Hugs are good and hugs are required.  Just hold your damn friend because their world was just ROCKED.

Another thing.  If it's a young girl or boy that has lost someone, DO NOT say something about how well adjusted they are or how they're handling it so well.  In fact, even if this person isn't young don't say that.  Death sucks and they're not bawling their eyes out because you're there, and most people don't like to show emotions to strangers.  They're not crying in front of you because they don't trust you, but they are not well adjusted to this SHOCK and they ARE NOT handling it well.  I promise.

DO NOT dismiss their emotions or lack thereof.  Death sucks.  Losing someone you love sucks.  And all your friend wants is your love and support in this shitty time.

[Inspired by this post and my own experience.]

Monday, February 21, 2011

Sometimes friends are bad at being friends

I know my friends love me, but they're so good at hurting my feelings sometimes.  I walked into dinner tonight and my friend asked me what I did to my hair in an extremely condescending tone.  Immediately, I wanted to turn around and leave.  It didn't get much better from there.

Once some more friends showed up they started poking fun at me.  I'm all for joking around, but when it gets to the point where you're the only one that's the butt of the jokes it starts to suck.  Tonight sucked.

I'm sure I'll be over it in a day or so, but I'm going on vacation with these people in three days for four days.  There will be nonstop friend-time with them so I think I'm going to need to break it up a bit.  I'm planning on bringing a set or two of workout clothes as well as a book so when I need some alone time I can go get lost for a couple of hours.

And can I just say I really like the color of my hair right now.  Sure, blonde is fun, but I think I make a pretty brunette as well. 

Friday, February 11, 2011

Love Stories

It is February after all--the lovers month--and I absolutely adore love stories, especially when it's old peoples' love stories.

This is one of my favorite videos of a sweet couple, Danny and Annie, that interviewed with StoryCorps to tell their love story.  It's heartbreaking and beautiful at the same time.

Danny & Annie from StoryCorps on Vimeo.

This collection of photos of old couples who have been married 50 years or more is sweet.

Now to start my own love story :)

[card from here]

Wednesday, February 9, 2011

Monday, February 7, 2011

Big change

Things are changing in my life.  The second I think I've got the answers, that I know how my life is going to go and start making plans God changes things.  I'm so thankful and at the same time so mad that I can't make things go exactly how I want to. 

"I understand that life, and family, does not always look the way we thought it would." from here

This song is inspiring me right now.

Tuesday, February 1, 2011

Why I'm Single

I think I've discovered exactly why I'm single.  I won't put up with guy's crap. 

I can't stand when they get pissy over stupid things.  Por ejemplo, a friend wrote on her blog about her boyfrand getting upset with her because he couldn't get in touch with her when her phone was malfunctioning, even after she had tried to contact him via every other social media outlet possible...and there are a lot of those.  Eff that.  I do not need you attitude, mister.  You can take that attitude with you out the door and not come back.  I don't deal with the kids I babysit being crybabies and I sure as hell won't deal with you being one. 

I need attention and I need a lot of it.  If you're not calling me to see how my day's going on the reg--if you're not telling me I'm pretty and that you love me--if you don't open my door, offer to pay for dinner (or lunch or breakfast or coffee--it's a meal, not a freaking engagement ring), or do something utterly gentlemanly then I truly want nothing to do with you. 

After talking to my baller frand, C-dawg, he came to the conclusion that sometimes I lower my standards but still hold high expectations.  I end up hurt and calling him crying telling him all guys suck.  So that's healthy.

But he's right.  I do lower my standards and allow myself to get hurt and then I get pissed off when I review the situation I've gotten myself into and realize exactly where I gave the guy the go-ahead to treat me like crap--aka where I decided my standards, the ones that I know I have and that make me happy when I uphold them and find a guy who actually adheres to my standards, were null and void and no longer mattered.

But no more.  I'm swearing off guys for at least a month.  Maybe two.  And during this time they might hit on me each time I go out and I'll just say, "Nope, I'm not seeing anyone right now...including you."  Or maybe no guys will talk to me, ask to buy me a drink, ask for my number.  And that's okay too because I'm just completely sick and tired of males and their bullshit and I'm tired of me dealing with it.

See ya in a month or two, dudes.